Blog: Healing Choices
This blog focuses on the small moments that make a good day into a bad day, or a terrible day into a gift of a day. It’s my belief that developing awareness in these small moments is the practice we need to be able to navigate all the ups and downs of life, from loss and grief to love, peace, and joy.
I Can’t…Can I?
I was talking to an acquaintance at the end of a meeting recently. After we chatted for a few minutes, she asked me what I was up to. "I'm going running now," I said. "Oh, I can't run," she said. "Have you ever tried running?" I asked. "No," she said with a laugh....
Awake and Aware Eating
A couple of weeks ago, my husband and I decided to give up carbs and sugar—for three weeks. My husband has done this before; I never have. It’s now been two weeks, and I’m still off the sugar and the carbs. The first week was difficult as I had a hard time figuring...
Expanding
This year I've embraced the idea of doing something scary every day. Scary in a good way, you know what I mean? Scary-exciting, not scary-creepy. For each one of us, what scares us in a, "I couldn't do that. Could I?!" way, is different. Some days the scary thing I've...
Dealing with Difficult People
In the last couple of months, I’ve been talking to a lot of people about dealing with the difficult people in our lives.
The biggest problem, in my opinion, is we continue to think things like:
To Send or Not to Send
I’ve been doing a lot of things that scare me lately. I’ve been speaking up and speaking out more than ever before. Even though I have thoughts like: What are they going to think of me? What if they don’t like me? What if I’m wrong?
Worry is Useless
Last night, before I fell asleep, I started worrying about a loved one. After a few minutes, I noticed I was worrying and I decided to do something different, since I believe worry is useless.
Instead of worrying, I step back and look at my thoughts. I realize they are very unlikely to be true and I decide to think different thoughts that are true. Thoughts like these:
Practice the Positive
How can you change a negative mindset to a positive mindset? Someone asked me this question recently.
Yes or No?
Often, I have a hard time saying "no." But if I can't say no, then I can't really say, "yes." If "no" is not on the table, then I believe I have no choice. I have no boundary. Whatever you want is what I feel I have to give. So my "yes" is really, "I have to." I don't...
Scary but Fun
Some of you may know I’m a member of Toastmasters, a public speaking club. I joined Toastmasters once, years ago, and did some speeches and contributed to the club, but I was really scared of speaking in public so I didn’t volunteer as much as I could have and I never...
Self-Care
Self-care sounds like one of those words that doesn’t really mean anything, except maybe as an excuse to be selfish. But here’s my definition: Self-care = I love myself as much as I love everybody else. I count, too. Recently a client asked me if she was sabotaging...