Practice Makes Progress

Practice Makes Progress

A client recently described a situation where she basically watched herself behave like a self-conscious, insecure teenager (she’s middle-aged) and she couldn’t stop herself. “I told myself to stop thinking about it and I did…for about 10 seconds. Then I was right...
Passive-Aggressive Behavior on my Part

Passive-Aggressive Behavior on my Part

One evening, my husband and I were cleaning up the kitchen and I noticed an empty carton of ice cream on the counter. “You finished the ice cream?” I asked. “Yup,” he said, continuing to load the dishwasher. “Wow,” I said, “that was fast.” He just nodded and kept...
Conversation with Fear

Conversation with Fear

For some reason—okay, maybe because I’m working on a big, scary goal—I got the image of me and fear sitting on a park bench. Or should I say Fear? Anyway, we sat down on this park bench together to talk. The sky was full of angry, dark clouds roiling in the gusty...
Micro-Conflicts

Micro-Conflicts

There’s been a lot of conflict going on in our world these days. I’ve paid as much attention as I can, although at times I’ve had to turn off the radio and turn away from the newspaper headlines. Thinking about conflict make me notice how I react (what I think, how I...