Healing Choices

One evening, my husband and I were cleaning up the kitchen and I noticed an empty carton of ice cream on the counter. “You finished the ice cream?” I asked. “Yup,” he said, continuing to load the dishwasher. “Wow,” I said, “that was fast.” He just nodded and kept...

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Two Days

I had a great day yesterday. I got up early with my son and we got ready for the day together. I dropped him off at school and had a great workout at the Y, then I showered and ate an early lunch that was healthy and delicious. I worked on an important project for a...

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Conversation with Fear

For some reason—okay, maybe because I’m working on a big, scary goal—I got the image of me and fear sitting on a park bench. Or should I say Fear? Anyway, we sat down on this park bench together to talk. The sky was full of angry, dark clouds roiling in the gusty...

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Argument or Peace

After a presentation one night, a man came up to me and asked me what to do if you want to be positive but you live with someone who is very negative. I asked him for an example. “Last night my wife came upstairs and said, ‘You left the light on in the basement...

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Recently, my son and I were 2 minutes late to his karate class. I knew as we pulled into the parking lot that he would not want to go in, even though I could see through the big window that class had not started yet. “Look!” I said. “Class hasn’t started yet. We can...

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Vision Board Focus

In January, I do a lot of presentations on vision boards. I also work with my individual clients who are interested in making a vision board. Earlier this month, I sat down with a new client to work with her as she created her first-ever vision board. She’d brought a...

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There’s been a lot of conflict going on in our world these days. I’ve paid as much attention as I can, although at times I’ve had to turn off the radio and turn away from the newspaper headlines. Thinking about conflict make me notice how I react (what I think, how I...

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The Magic of Reality

I recently sat with one of my best friends over coffee. Because I trust her so much, I told my friend about a problem I’d been having with my husband, as it bothered me deeply. She listened, as all good friends do, and then we moved on to other topics. After we left...

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Why I Meditate

You are not your thoughts. I am not my thoughts. Meditating helps me remember this. When I meditate, I watch my thoughts come and go, like clouds in the sky. I focus on my breath until I realize I’m not focusing on my breath—I realize I’m thinking a thought. Then I...

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First Do No Harm

Complaining is a Choice

When we complain about a situation, or “vent,” we are actually releasing some of the pressure we feel when we are in the situation, so it feels slightly less intolerable.

This is not necessarily a good thing.

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The Love Is Free

I remember asking a new patient I’d just put on an antidepressant to come back and see me within two weeks and again after she’d been on the medication for six weeks.
“Why, so you can make more money off me?”

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An Honest Answer

When a patient was very late for an appointment (basically, they missed the appointment because they arrived more than 15 minutes late,) someone from our front office staff would often come back and ask if we would still see the patient. When I said, “Yes,” as I most...

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Stop Saying “Yes”

Once upon a time, doctors wrote short notes about their patients so they would remember what they’d been thinking about when the patient was last seen. They’d write down the symptoms, the physical exam, and the diagnosis and treatment plan. Enough so they or one of...

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Take A Breath

Once when I was a resident, I rotated with a brilliant specialist for a month. He was funny, didn’t suffer fools gladly, and he was very good to his patients. One day we walked briskly to the door of one of his exam rooms. He pulled the patient chart from the holder...

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The Visit Includes The Charting

I had a colleague once, when I was working at a residency, who gave what I thought was great advice to the residents with regard to the EMR: “Write a crappy note now, or a crappier note later.” Now, I know this is not what you want to hear, but truthfully, is your...

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