Problem Solving

There’s been a lot of talk around my house lately about problems: Specifically, problem solving. I often say to my 5-year-old son, when he comes to me with a complaint: “That sounds like a problem for you. How do you think you could solve it?” We have a lot of fun...

Worry is Useless

Last night, before I fell asleep, I started worrying about a loved one. After a few minutes, I noticed I was worrying and I decided to do something different, since I believe worry is useless.

Instead of worrying, I step back and look at my thoughts. I realize they are very unlikely to be true and I decide to think different thoughts that are true. Thoughts like these:

TV Not Included

I often use a tool with my clients called The Ideal Day (courtesy of Martha Beck.) It’s a visualization exercise where I walk people through an ideal day in their regular life five years in the future. I use this tool so much with my own clients because it had a...

The Stop Doing List

There are a lot of things I want to do in this world. I have big dreams, big goals. My son is getting a little older and I’m going to have more time to do other things before too long. In order to get ready—to be ready—I need to make a list. No, not a To-Do List: A...