Argument or Peace

Argument or Peace

After a presentation one night, a man came up to me and asked me what to do if you want to be positive but you live with someone who is very negative. I asked him for an example. “Last night my wife came upstairs and said, ‘You left the light on in the basement...

Ask For What You Need II

A couple of weeks ago I drove home from a trip to Pennsylvania with a friend. About midday we stopped at a rest area on the Merritt Parkway. We got to the door of the restroom only to find a line of at least 8 women ahead of us. There were only two stalls in the...

Ask For What You Need

Two weeks ago I was sitting in the front row of a classroom, trying to listen to a lecture. The speaker projected her voice, but the two women sitting to my right were having an animated conversation, occasionally punctuated by giggles and chuckles. I found it...

Projection

There are times when I sense a lot of disapproval coming from the people around me. This is a classic example of projection, the psychological theory that states that people project onto others traits and motivations that they themselves feel. Knowing this, when I get that feeling that others disapprove of me, I check in with myself and find that, really, I’m the only one disapproving of myself.

Scary but Fun

Some of you may know I’m a member of Toastmasters, a public speaking club. I joined Toastmasters once, years ago, and did some speeches and contributed to the club, but I was really scared of speaking in public so I didn’t volunteer as much as I could have and I never...