Blog: Healing Choices
This blog focuses on the small moments that make a good day into a bad day, or a terrible day into a gift of a day. It’s my belief that developing awareness in these small moments is the practice we need to be able to navigate all the ups and downs of life, from loss and grief to love, peace, and joy.
Preemptive Disappointment
Recently, I found myself “preemptively disappointed.” Has that ever happened to you? I had plans to do something fun with my sister but another obligation came up involving someone else. I was afraid I couldn’t complete this obligation and still join my sister. So I...
Breathing Room
Yesterday afternoon I decided to go running before I picked my son up from school. I went to the park, stretched, and headed out. Something felt different, though, and I realized I had my phone in one hand but I didn’t have my key in the other hand. As soon as I...
Offer What You Can
My friend and mentor, Christina Baldwin, often says: “Ask for what you need, offer what you can.” I’ve written recently about asking for what we need (click here and here to read those posts,) but that’s only part of the story. We also need to offer what we can....
Ask For What You Need II
A couple of weeks ago I drove home from a trip to Pennsylvania with a friend. About midday we stopped at a rest area on the Merritt Parkway. We got to the door of the restroom only to find a line of at least 8 women ahead of us. There were only two stalls in the...
Ask For What You Need
Two weeks ago I was sitting in the front row of a classroom, trying to listen to a lecture. The speaker projected her voice, but the two women sitting to my right were having an animated conversation, occasionally punctuated by giggles and chuckles. I found it...
Problem Solving
There’s been a lot of talk around my house lately about problems: Specifically, problem solving. I often say to my 5-year-old son, when he comes to me with a complaint: “That sounds like a problem for you. How do you think you could solve it?” We have a lot of fun...
Cognitive Dissonance III
I’ve been writing about cognitive dissonance lately, on Live to Write--Write to Live, a group blog I’m a part of with 7 other writers. You can check out those blog posts here and here. I thought I was done thinking about—and writing about—cognitive dissonance for a...
Out of My Comfort Zone
Lately, the concept of “comfort zone” has come up with multiple clients during multiple conversations. I used to think getting out of your comfort zone meant making a drastic change. Over the years I’ve come to see that if we can get out of our comfort zones in very...
Becoming Conscious and Aware
Last week I gave a presentation titled: Becoming Conscious and Aware. During the presentation I talked about Wordlessness, which is when you drop out of language and enter a state of being. The participants and I did a number of exercises together and I thought the...
Developing Awareness
My husband and I got home from camping one day a couple of weeks ago and we were exhausted. We got a little snippy with each other as we were unpacking the car, and then I realized we were just tired. It had poured rain the night before and our tent leaked, so my...