It’s Perfect—Always

Recently my husband was adding a form to my website and he somehow made the whole website disappear from my computer. I have no idea how he did this (neither does he) but when he told me, I just said, “Okay, that’s fine.” And I meant it. I thought, I must need to...

It’s Not You…It’s Me

A good friend, Jane, recently called me to vent about her husband. She’s married, has  three beautiful children and a full-time teaching job. She said, “I was enjoying a yogurt after clearing the table, filling the dishwasher, and cleaning off the island, when Pete...

Choosing Not To Suffer

The other day my stepson and his friend came to my house to pick up some of the stuff my stepson had stored in our basement as he was moving to a new apartment. They said they needed to make another trip so I invited them to stay for dinner when they returned. They...

Saying No Is Not a Bad Thing

Who would you rather ask a favor from? Say you need a babysitter or even, God forbid, to borrow $100? Here are your choices: Friend A, who will interrogate you about why you need a babysitter or what you want the money for. You know she will do this as she always...

Who’s Judging Me?

My husband, Tom, left the country and dry land for three weeks. I stayed home with our son. In some ways, life was harder, but in some ways, life was a lot easier. I noticed about a week after Tom left, that I felt good. Lighter. I had more “work” to do, and less time...