by dmackinnon | Oct 24, 2012 | Healing Choices, Process
Once, a client and I were discussing feelings and I told her if she could just stay with the feeling, no matter how bad, it would recede like the tide. “I know,” she said, “no feeling is ever final.” “Exactly!” I said. “Who said that?” “I thought you did.” “Nope, not...
by dmackinnon | Oct 17, 2012 | Healing Choices, Limiting Beliefs
When I need to learn something (or maybe when I’m ready to learn a lesson), clients show up who also need to learn the same thing. I can see, so clearly, what they need to learn, and then—thwak!—the fact that I also need to learn the same lesson hits me in the face....
by dmackinnon | Oct 10, 2012 | Healing Choices, Thought Work
My husband just started a new job, one he’s really excited about. And what do I find myself thinking about? Basically, how this affects me. More specifically, I’ve been thinking thoughts like: He’s never home anymore. I don’t have any time to work on my stuff. I have...
by dmackinnon | Oct 3, 2012 | Healing Choices, Thought Work
Have you ever had an amazing experience—and only realized it after it was all over? I recently took my son out to dinner. He’s only 2 so this is not something we do often. He wanted to sit outside (yes!) so we sat on a beautiful deck overlooking the ocean and the...
by dmackinnon | Sep 26, 2012 | Healing Choices, Limiting Beliefs
For the past few months, I’ve been doing a little experiment on my life, just to see what happens. The experiment involves noticing one thing whenever I consider doing something: I notice if it feels good, or if it feels bad. If it feels good, I commit to it, agree to...
by dmackinnon | Sep 19, 2012 | Communication, Healing Choices
Danielle LaPorte recently asked a “Burning Question:” What would you be more of if you let go of the past? She makes the point that “identifying the source of your crap is only half the journey. The other half is composting it into something radically new.” I love...
by dmackinnon | Sep 12, 2012 | Healing Choices, Thought Work
Okay, this isn’t really an ode. I just wanted to express how amazingly great it is to have a few hours to myself. My son recently started going to preschool two mornings a week. I’m getting a lot done in those few hours while he is playing with his new friends and...
by dmackinnon | Sep 5, 2012 | Healing Choices, Thought Work
Lately, I’ve been more aware of my thoughts and how they affect my daily life. I’ve been experimenting with different responses to my thoughts. Instead of automatically believing everything I think, I question my thoughts. There’s a quote from Mark Twain that I love:...
by dmackinnon | Aug 29, 2012 | Communication, Healing Choices
A few months ago, I did something I don’t usually do. Some people that I admire and trust told me I “should” reach out to a particular person in my field as we had so much in common. I “should” know better than to try to connect with someone just because others think...
by dmackinnon | Aug 15, 2012 | Healing Choices, Thought Work
These days, I feel good almost all of the time. And if I feel bad, it doesn’t last long. This was not always true for me. Back in the day, if I had a fight with my husband, I felt terrible—for days and days. After an argument (thankfully, a rare occurrence) I spent...
