by dmackinnon | Nov 21, 2019 | Healing Choices
I recently spoke to a group about self-compassion. I’ve spoken on this topic before, but this time I talked about the two sides of self-compassion, based on the most recent work of Dr. Kristin Neff, a researcher who has been studying compassion for years. One of the...
by dmackinnon | Nov 1, 2019 | Healing Choices, Mindset
I grew up believing I should never make a mistake. That there was something wrong with me when I did make a mistake, as of course I did, all the time! The result of my belief was that I felt terrible every time I made a mistake. Which means, I felt terrible all the...
by dmackinnon | Sep 4, 2019 | Healing Choices, Process
Lately I’ve been talking a lot about the Karpman Drama Triangle. Dr. Steven Karpman, a psychologist, developed the concept as a way of describing a dysfunctional way of dealing with conflict. It’s also been called the “victim consciousness” in other books. Recognizing...
by dmackinnon | Aug 31, 2019 | Healing Choices
Pema Chodron tells a story about how annoyed she (or someone in her meditation session) was listening to someone’s whistling breath during a meditation session. Eventually, she realized the sound was coming from the radiator and she was amazed to notice that all her...
by dmackinnon | Jul 31, 2019 | Healing Choices, Process
There’s a concept from the world of psychology that affects our everyday life: transference. “Transference is a psychological phenomenon in which an individual redirects emotions and feelings, often unconsciously, from one person to another.” —article on...
