{"id":1373,"date":"2014-07-16T06:00:17","date_gmt":"2014-07-16T06:00:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dianemackinnonmd.wordpress.com\/?p=39"},"modified":"2019-04-12T16:36:32","modified_gmt":"2019-04-12T16:36:32","slug":"the-love-is-free","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/dianemackinnon.com\/the-love-is-free\/","title":{"rendered":"The Love Is Free"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section bb_built=&#8221;1&#8243;][et_pb_row][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243;][et_pb_text background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221;] I remember asking a new patient I\u2019d just put on an antidepressant to come back and see me within two weeks and again after she\u2019d been on the medication for six weeks.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhy, so you can make more money off me?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I explained to her that I was an employed physician, and I got paid the same whether she came back once, twice, or not at all. I also explained why I wanted her to come back in two weeks and again in six weeks.<\/p>\n<p>But what I really wanted to say was this: \u201cYou pay me for my expertise, the love is free.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Because that\u2019s the truth, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n<p>There are a lot of jobs we could do for the same (or better) money. I really believe caring for patients is a calling, one we come to because we love taking care of people, of making a positive difference in people\u2019s lives. There are many other reasons as well, from having a steady job to problem-solving to studying the human body\u2014but without the caring, we are no longer \u201cbuilding a cathedral,\u201d we are \u201ccutting stone.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>You know the story about the stone cutters, right? (I&#8217;ll paraphrase it here.)<\/p>\n<p>There were three stone cutters working in a quarry and I asked the first one, \u201cWhat are you doing?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>He stepped back from the piece of stone he was laboriously cutting and said, \u201cWhat does it look like I\u2019m doing? I\u2019m cutting this piece of stone!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I moved on and asked the second stone cutter what he was doing. He stepped back from his block of stone and said, \u201cI\u2019m making a living and feeding a family.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>When I asked the third stone cutter what he was doing, he stepped back from his stone and raised his arms high. \u201cI am building a cathedral!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>The love is what motivates us to find the best solution for each one of our patients day after day. Without it, we are just cutting stone.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Are you cutting stone, or are you building a cathedral?<\/strong> [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section bb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; admin_label=&#8221;section&#8221; fullwidth=&#8221;off&#8221; specialty=&#8221;off&#8221; transparent_background=&#8221;off&#8221; background_color=&#8221;#edfae2&#8243; allow_player_pause=&#8221;off&#8221; inner_shadow=&#8221;off&#8221; parallax=&#8221;off&#8221; parallax_method=&#8221;off&#8221; padding_mobile=&#8221;off&#8221; make_fullwidth=&#8221;off&#8221; use_custom_width=&#8221;off&#8221; width_unit=&#8221;on&#8221; make_equal=&#8221;off&#8221; use_custom_gutter=&#8221;off&#8221; custom_padding_tablet=&#8221;50px|0|50px|0&#8243; custom_padding_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; global_module=&#8221;1589&#8243;][et_pb_row admin_label=&#8221;row&#8221; global_parent=&#8221;1589&#8243; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243;][et_pb_text global_parent=&#8221;1589&#8243; background_layout=&#8221;light&#8221; text_orientation=&#8221;left&#8221; module_id=&#8221;#newsletterHe&#8221; use_border_color=&#8221;off&#8221; border_color=&#8221;#ffffff&#8221; border_style=&#8221;solid&#8221; custom_css_main_element=&#8221;max-width:700px; ||margin:0 auto;&#8221;]<\/p>\n<div id=\"newsletterHe\">\n<h2>Subscribe To My Newsletter<\/h2>\n<p class=\"font16_color666\" style=\"font-size: 16px; color: #666666;\">I send out a monthly newsletter and an occasional quick email with news, events, or resources. 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I also explained why I wanted her to come back in two weeks and again in six weeks.\r\n\r\nBut what I really wanted to say was this: \u201cYou pay me for my expertise, the love is free.\u201d\r\n\r\nBecause that\u2019s the truth, isn\u2019t it?\r\n\r\nThere are a lot of jobs we could do for the same (or better) money. I really believe caring for patients is a calling, one we come to because we love taking care of people, of making a positive difference in people\u2019s lives. There are many other reasons as well, from having a steady job to problem-solving to studying the human body\u2014but without the caring, we are no longer \u201cbuilding a cathedral,\u201d we are \u201ccutting stone.\u201d\r\n\r\nYou know the story about the stone cutters, right? (I'll paraphrase it here.)\r\n\r\nThere were three stone cutters working in a quarry and I asked the first one, \u201cWhat are you doing?\u201d\r\n\r\nHe stepped back from the piece of stone he was laboriously cutting and said, \u201cWhat does it look like I\u2019m doing? I\u2019m cutting this piece of stone!\u201d\r\n\r\nI moved on and asked the second stone cutter what he was doing. He stepped back from his block of stone and said, \u201cI\u2019m making a living and feeding a family.\u201d\r\n\r\nWhen I asked the third stone cutter what he was doing, he stepped back from his stone and raised his arms high. \u201cI am building a cathedral!\"\r\n\r\nThe love is what motivates us to find the best solution for each one of our patients day after day. 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