Blog: Healing Choices
This blog focuses on the small moments that make a good day into a bad day, or a terrible day into a gift of a day. It’s my belief that developing awareness in these small moments is the practice we need to be able to navigate all the ups and downs of life, from loss and grief to love, peace, and joy.
A Clue to What I’m Feeling Right Now
One day last summer when my sister, my son, and I were shopping, we saw a display of wooden signs. The one that caught my son’s eye was: “If stupid could fly, this place would be an airport.” I’m pretty sure he gets his love of sarcasm from me. 🙂 The one my sister...
Am I Lonely?
One day not too long ago, I thought to myself, I'm lonely. My husband, whose hobby is wild life photography, was immersed in editing the pictures from his last trip, and my son was playing online with his cousins. I was unpacking from the same trip, as the three of...
Lessons Learned from Doing Scary-Exciting Things
On February 16, 2021, I decided to try do one scary (exciting!) thing a day. Not a scary-yucky thing, but something I’d really like to do if I had enough courage or if I suddenly couldn’t feel fear. I decided to pretend I had enough courage and think about what I...
To Create Good Habits, Look for the Evidence
Habits are tricky. They are insidious. They can steal time or give you back time. I’ve come to believe that habits are the key to a healthy life. The things we habitually do, as well as the things we habitually don’t do, make the difference between feeling good and...
Do You Function, Overfunction, or Underfunction in Your Life?
When my husband and I were first married, I quickly realized he was very tech-savvy and he loved gadgets. In fact, while I was doing my first coach training with Martha Beck (way back in 2003,) I called him from Arizona and mentioned I was going to need a website in...
Self-Doubt and Rumination Happen When Bad Things Happen
Not long ago, a client told me he’s recently been going over things that happened in the past—things he wasn’t proud of, but things he’d come to terms with. “I thought I had dealt with all that stuff,” he said, “but lately I just keep going over them. I can’t seem to...
Approval-Seeking Prevents Presence
I took my son to the dentist for his six-month cleaning recently and he had a new hygienist. She was very good with my son, who is still fairly uncomfortable with the whole process. He had to have x-rays and she explained everything to him and got the first picture. I...
One Scary-Exciting Thing a Day
A few months ago, I wrote a blog post about doing one scary thing a day. The practice has been very helpful for me and my clients but a recent conversation made me think I wasn’t clear enough with that post. As Brené Brown says: “Clear is kind, unclear is unkind.” I...
Changing Habits: Sometimes Easy, Sometimes Not
One Saturday morning when I was a first year medical student, I got off the subway and stopped off at the bodega to get a cup of coffee on my way to school to study for the biochemistry test on Monday. I got to my study carrel, unloaded my books, and drank my coffee...
One Scary Thing a Day
Recently, I decided to do something scary once a day. Very recently. Two days ago, actually. Today will be the third day but I haven’t done anything scary yet. Two days ago I called the medical school I went to to update my information in the alumni directory. Not...