by dmackinnon | Jul 31, 2019 | Healing Choices, Process
There’s a concept from the world of psychology that affects our everyday life: transference. “Transference is a psychological phenomenon in which an individual redirects emotions and feelings, often unconsciously, from one person to another.” —article on...
by dmackinnon | Jun 28, 2019 | Healing Choices, Process
I read a great post by Seth Godin earlier this year; in it he said if something is important, you create a system for it.
Right after I read that blog post, there was a morning when I got my son to school late. I realized we didn’t really have a good system for...
by dmackinnon | May 15, 2019 | Healing Choices, Process
A friend who has been seeing a therapist recently told me she wanted to change her appointments with her therapist to once a month but the therapist “talked her into” changing to every other week. When she said that, it reminded me of a time when I hired a therapist...
by dmackinnon | Dec 3, 2018 | Healing Choices, Process
Want to get stuck or stay stuck? Tell yourself “I don’t know.” No matter what the problem is, telling yourself “I don’t know,” just about guarantees you will not solve the problem. The human brain is very concrete: if I tell myself “I don’t know,” my brain will stop...
by dmackinnon | Nov 1, 2018 | Healing Choices, Process
Recently, one of my clients called me to say that she was having a lot of anxiety and she didn’t know why. Just a day earlier, during our coaching session, we’d talked about an incident involving her mother. As everyone gathered in the kitchen during a family event,...
by dmackinnon | Jul 30, 2018 | Healing Choices, Process
Gratitude is a practice. You can’t just smear an “I’m so thankful,” on top of “I don’t want this,” and call it good. Let me give you an example. If your boss dumps a bunch of your coworker’s files on your desk and says, “Here, Joan is on vacation this week but these...
