Experiment

For the past few months, I’ve been doing a little experiment on my life, just to see what happens. The experiment involves noticing one thing whenever I consider doing something: I notice if it feels good, or if it feels bad. If it feels good, I commit to it, agree to...

Asking For Help

A couple of weeks ago I was working on a “landing page” on my website for a retreat I am hosting in the fall. It is very close to my heart and I had been working on the page days—adding content, removing content, stopping and starting. Finally, after about two weeks,...

Rule-Follower

I think of myself as a rule-follower, but there is one rule that I find myself breaking more and more as time goes by. The rule I break most often is the unspoken rule that says we have to “be nice.” This usually means, “keep quiet and don’t rock the boat.” For...

Belief = Action

If you really want to know what I believe, look at my behavior. For example, I’ve been saying for years that I wanted to get out of debt, that having debt is not for me. But if you looked at my spending habits, you could see that I didn’t really believe this. I would...

Limiting Beliefs

Recently, I got back in touch with a friend I have known since college. She is a born salesperson, and has been in sales since we graduated (many, many years ago.) The last time I saw her, a few years ago, she was commuting about 3 hours a day to her workplace and...

Some Longings Just Don’t Go Away

Below are some of the longings I’ve heard over the years from my clients, along with some of the “buts:” • “I’ve always wanted to create beautiful things with my hands, but I have a great job. I’m a school teacher—the benefits are great and everyone tells me I’m...