by dmackinnon | Sep 4, 2019 | Healing Choices, Process
Lately I’ve been talking a lot about the Karpman Drama Triangle. Dr. Steven Karpman, a psychologist, developed the concept as a way of describing a dysfunctional way of dealing with conflict. It’s also been called the “victim consciousness” in other books. Recognizing...
by dmackinnon | Aug 31, 2019 | Healing Choices
Pema Chodron tells a story about how annoyed she (or someone in her meditation session) was listening to someone’s whistling breath during a meditation session. Eventually, she realized the sound was coming from the radiator and she was amazed to notice that all her...
by dmackinnon | Jul 31, 2019 | Healing Choices, Process
There’s a concept from the world of psychology that affects our everyday life: transference. “Transference is a psychological phenomenon in which an individual redirects emotions and feelings, often unconsciously, from one person to another.” —article on...
by dmackinnon | Jun 28, 2019 | Healing Choices, Process
I read a great post by Seth Godin earlier this year; in it he said if something is important, you create a system for it.
Right after I read that blog post, there was a morning when I got my son to school late. I realized we didn’t really have a good system for...
by dmackinnon | May 15, 2019 | Healing Choices, Process
A friend who has been seeing a therapist recently told me she wanted to change her appointments with her therapist to once a month but the therapist “talked her into” changing to every other week. When she said that, it reminded me of a time when I hired a therapist...
by dmackinnon | Apr 24, 2019 | Healing Choices, Mindset
I think I’ve finally learned that when I screw up, it doesn’t mean “quit,” or “I can’t do it,” it just means, “try again.” When I go to my Toastmasters meetings, I usually volunteer for Table Topics. That means you volunteer to speak, get up in front of...
