What a Day!

Which day would you rather have? Day #1: Got up before I was ready. Had to take care of everyone else. Had to drive to Boston in rush-hour traffic. Had to wait for hours to see a doctor. Had to drive home in rush-hour traffic. Had to pick up my son and put him to bed....

Losing My Identity

“We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” ― Joseph Campbell I started thinking about becoming a physician when I was 11 years old. I graduated from medical school at the age of 29. By the time I...

No Feeling Is Ever Final

Once, a client and I were discussing feelings and I told her if she could just stay with the feeling, no matter how bad, it would recede like the tide. “I know,” she said, “no feeling is ever final.” “Exactly!” I said. “Who said that?” “I thought you did.” “Nope, not...

Rat Park

When I need to learn something (or maybe when I’m ready to learn a lesson), clients show up who also need to learn the same thing. I can see, so clearly, what they need to learn, and then—thwak!—the fact that I also need to learn the same lesson hits me in the face....

New Job, Old Thoughts

My husband just started a new job, one he’s really excited about. And what do I find myself thinking about? Basically, how this affects me. More specifically, I’ve been thinking thoughts like: He’s never home anymore. I don’t have any time to work on my stuff. I have...

Amazing Experience–But I Missed It

Have you ever had an amazing experience—and only realized it after it was all over? I recently took my son out to dinner. He’s only 2 so this is not something we do often. He wanted to sit outside (yes!) so we sat on a beautiful deck overlooking the ocean and the...