Behavior Always Makes Sense

I was listening to a Byron Katie podcast the other day while I ran, and one of her statements really stayed with me: “The only thing anyone is ever guilty of is believing their thoughts.” She said this after her caller described how a teacher had mocked him and...

Not Ready to Set a Boundary

Not too long ago, I was talking to a client about boundaries. He wanted to know why the boundary he set with his adult daughter wasn’t working. I’ve discussed boundaries in this blog before, but they are such an important part of a healthy, happy, life that I think...

Slight Delay Causes No Problem

My son and I went on vacation a couple of weeks ago with my sister and her children. The plan was to leave for the 10-hour drive as early as possible. Then my sister called me: “There’s a problem, but it’s fixable.” “Okay,” I said, hoping nobody was sick or injured....

TV Not Included

I often use a tool with my clients called The Ideal Day (courtesy of Martha Beck.) It’s a visualization exercise where I walk people through an ideal day in their regular life five years in the future. I use this tool so much with my own clients because it had a...

A Great Question

A couple of weeks ago, my friend (and coach) Susan Hyatt sent out an email with a great message. In it, she talked about the great question her coach once gave her: What feels most like love? Last week, after I drove my son to preschool, my plan was to go running. But...

A Simple Question

One night a couple of weeks ago I told my husband about my morning with our son as I bustled around getting ready for bed. My son goes to preschool two days a week and lately he hasn’t been thrilled about going, especially after his 5-day “weekend.” My son told me on...