Recently my husband was adding a form to my website and he somehow made the whole website disappear from my computer. I have no idea how he did this (neither does he) but when he told me, I just said, “Okay, that’s fine.” And I meant it.

I thought, I must need to re-do my website, and I moved on with my day. I still don’t have my website back (it’s online, you can find it, I just can’t make any changes to it because I no longer have access to it!) but I plan to re-do it as soon as I can and, until then, it will stay as it is.

A few weeks ago a friend (Lisa) and I drove about an hour to Boston for an all-day writing conference.  Before we left town, we stopped at Dunkin’ Donuts. When we got to the parking garage in Boston, I looked for the little backpack I had put my wallet and pens in. Not there! As soon as I realized it wasn’t there I knew exactly where it was. I wasn’t worried. I had a strong feeling that it was all going to work out. I called my husband and asked him to go pick up my bag at the Dunkin’ Donuts.

“Is it there?” he asked.

“I’m sure it is,” I said.

“Well, can you call and check?”

“I will,” I said, “but I’ll only text you if it’s not there.”

I called the Dunkin’ Donuts and they had my bag. “Cool,” I said. “My husband’s going to come pick it up. His name is Tom.”

My friend said, “Oh, thank God! I can finally breathe normally again.”

We went on to have a wonderful day. I got to bum money off Lisa (I paid her back!), attend the conference, and I didn’t have to carry my bag around with me all day.

As I notice again and again that things always work out, I more often respond to any snafu or problem with a “this must be perfect” attitude.

“How is this perfect for you?” This is the question I’ve been asking my clients lately whenever they tell me something bad that has happened.

While this, on the surface, can be a really annoying question (that I originally heard from Brooke Castillo), it is a question that my clients can always answer.

Not sometimes. Not most of the time. Always.

There is always a legitimate, believable, true reason why a particular circumstance, no matter how crappy, is perfect for them (and you, and me.)

You may be thinking: No way is Aunt Lulu’s cutting me out of the will perfect for me, or something similar, but I invite you to close your eyes and meditate on whatever your situation is, and see if you can find the answer to the question—

How is that perfect for you?

Let me know what comes up.